FREE ESSAY ON MARRIAGE ASYLUM

MARRIAGE ASYLUM

It is my belief that the institution of marriage is a sham, designed by pious Christain
fanatics in order to subjugate, control, and furthermore oppress a woman's personal
liberties, intellectual freedoms and artistic development. It is also my belief that much
in the way of the institution of marriage has not changed since its barbaric origin
hundreds of years ago. In light of the enormous rate of divorce, marriage should be
banned or at least have greater restrictions placed on the eligibility of matrimonial
covenants. Such restrictions would include, but not limited to, communication training,
household budgeting classes and psychological counseling for a period of no less than one
year. Such matrimonial courses would be designed to make the transition into marriage
easier. If marriage has to continue, then let us concede intellectually that the
institution of marriage is seriously flawed and deserves a second look at revising some
long held principles. It is also my opinion that marriage deserves equal treatment and
the same consideration as training for a future profession would. Is it not ironic, that
people spend year's attending college or on vocational training in order to prepare
themselves for a careers which, will in all likelihood change many times over their
lives. I demand that people open their eyes and realize it is just as important to
prepare for a successful marriage as it is a successful career. Today, marital classes
are not a standard prerequisite to marriage except in a few Christian faith organizations
such as Lutheran and Catholic. Something is seriously awry with the institute of marriage
when large populations of adults are experiencing one, two even three or more marriages.
In this paper, let us explore together whether the sanctity of marriage is actually
worthy of being saved. Let us ask ourselves some rather poignant questions. Why it was
necessary for the institute of marriage to be established in the first place? What are
the benefits of marriage and who benefits from them the most? Lastly, I will try and
persuade you to believe the institution of marriage should be permanently dissolved or at
least reconfigured.
As long as chastity is held in high regard, marriage will always be considered a noble
institution. What a damnable lie! It is supremely sexist to expect women, of 'exceptional
breeding' to remain chaste. From the beginning of time women have been looked down upon
as frailer, weaker and a less intelligent sex, which men controlled and subjugated.
Because of the disproportionate number of white men, which dominates and governed our
society, laws have been created to protect men and the non-interference of law into
domestic issues. Men of importance and prestige instilled in our society sexist ideas and
practices that chastise women and are unfair. Men have always been promiscuous species
and it's widely known and still considered somewhat true of women today that have
multiple sex partners are labeled sluts or whores, but men can have as many partners as
he wants without being stigmatized by his many rendezvous. The idea of women remaining
chaste until marriage is simply a hypocritical double standard! 
The idea of marriage was thought up by Christain priests in the eleventh century that
believed women should remain chaste. Before marriage became the great institution it is
known for today, it had more informal beginnings. Before the eleventh century, it was no
more that an informal agreement witnessed and performed by local church officials on the
steps of the church. In the eleventh century, marriage was not devised for the sole
purpose of procreation. It was instead intended to legitimize fornication within the
confines of a marriage and forbidden outside the sacred covenant of the institution by
the Church. It a popular and accurate belief at the time by Church officials that
abstinence could protect society against lascivious behavior, promiscuity and the
proliferation of illegitimate children within society. It was therefore the church and
not society, which would set the standard for what was deemed normal behavior. In
contrast, because society developed God considered a standard or measure for what normal
and by the laws of nature, it could then be used to ostracize those who were deemed
inappropriate by exhibiting aberrant behaviors in society. Ironically, this idea imposed
upon society hundreds of years ago is where we remain morally routed today. It is fair to
admit that marriage can cut down certain social ills. 
Segments of our society, such as judges, attorneys, therapists, counselors, arbitrators
and other professionals spend years cultivating their careers in college, then leech off
societal dysfunction and off the reality that happy marriages are purely myth.
Dissolution of marriages occasionally takes years and cost exhorbant amounts of money. It
is therefore my contention that church and state have a great incentive to get people to
marry and then divorce, again and again. Both Church and State have continually made
adversaries out of divorcing couples and I would further argue that both Church and State
collaboratively devised the institution of marriage as a means to keep people under their
congregational and legislative control and as a way to collaboratively accumulate wealth
and stay the flow of illegitimate orphaned children, monetarily draining both Church and
State and led to confusion over rightful property heirs. 
Extremely high percentage of divorce supports my argument that people enter into marriage
too lightly, without fully preparing themselves for the actual realities of what marriage
entails. High incidences of divorce in our culture may suggest that people are either not
mature enough to marry or have wrong expectations of marriage. The men and women today
experiencing multiple marriages are undeniable proof that the institute of marriage is
flawed. If marriage must endure then society must change the parameters under which
marriage takes place and that requires mandatory marital classes. 
Women tend to fall in love too easily and fall in love with the idea of being in love.
This could be because many women place too much importance on romance, by idealizing and
romanticizing what they believe marriage to be. After women marry, however, the myth is
more often than not - shattered. Women in general marry too young and oftentimes do not
have the opportunity to explore their own identities before entering marriage, it is no
wonder then when they get married they haven not yet formed their own identity. In these
cases a wife's identity usually revolves around her husband. Because of this, it is not
surprising that so many women seek divorces after years or even decades of marriage. 
I dare say in all honesty, there are many mutual benefits of being married for both
husband and wife in society. However, it is my strong opinion that the husband enjoys
more benefits of being married than the wife. It is my experience that a wife is in a
sense in bondage and is held a virtual slave in her own home and master. While the
husband is off working, the wife cleans, cooks and looks after the children. While he
earns a living at a job that provides a steady paycheck and generally ends at five
o'clock, she continues to work up until she goes to bed. Stay at home mothers thirty or
forty years ago were revered for staying home to care for their homes and children while
women in the nineties are ostracized, under appreciated by society and underpaid for the
amount of work that they do. I would even hazard a guess that in most cases the amount of
work that is performed is overlooked or taken for granted by the husband. Husband's can
call in sick and get paid vacations, as opposed to women who have to get meals made and
take care of the kids even when their sick, and her idea of a vacation is simply being in
the bathroom for more than five minutes without being interrupted. Because the role of
care-giver is placed sometimes unfairly on women, countless mothers are having to put
their careers on hold or ending them altogether in order to raise their children
themselves. Father's can have children and still be able to pursue their careers and are
free to climb the corporate ladder with a clear conscience; they can even traipse the
family all over the States to wherever their careers lead them. Married men in general
are in better health and are better cared after. Whereas, mother's can hardly find the
time in the day to exercise and consequently society deems them as letting themselves go.
Taking care of themselves no longer is a priority. Married men can still enjoy leisurely
activities such as golfing, business trips, late dinners with friends, associates or
prospective clients. Women who stay home are generally left financially dependent on
their husbands. Monetary control is many times used against women as a weapon of control,
welded by controlling husbands in domineering relationships and squash their wives into
subservient positions and or into total submission.
Still, women do experience some important benefits from the institute of marriage. Such
advantages include increased financial security such as a home, health insurance, and
better schools for their children, greater opportunities for the children and simply
having a husband for personal safety. Women find they have more latitude if quitting her
job becomes necessary, because the husband single income may enable her to remain in the
home to care for their children. Therefore, the institute of marriage does in truth,
provide certain advantages, some of which may not otherwise be available.
Since when did the institute of marriage become the epitome of morality? Marriage is just
years of stressful, aggravation wrought with conflicts derived from personal, religious
and a parenting nature. When things get rough, men and women sometimes seek out
adulterous affairs. Men have on average one sexual thought every thirty-seconds. Whereas
women may only have two or three for the entire day. How can we be surprised then that
reports indicate men are promiscuous by nature and that eighty- percent of married men
are having adulterous relations. Infidelity has become a common occurrence in marriages.
Such large instances of infidelity prove that marriage cannot work successfully. Other
reason that marriage does not work, look at the dissolution process. Why does divorce
have to be so complicated and drawn out? Entire households are commonly broken up or
absorbed in litigation costs. Why get married at all if you have a fifty-fifty chance of
loosing everything? 
In the end, marriage is just a crapshoot and the odds of having a successful marriage are
stacked more than fifty percent against you. The institution of marriage was designed by
men for men. Marriage has also proven through centuries that it can be a positive aspect
for. Marriage promotes wealth of the individual family and that of Church and State.
Lastly, marriage cultivates the arts and maintains religion. It is also an organized way
of historical record keeping. I hope that even with all these factors, it is still proven
to be an imperfect system with many flaws, which need serious addressing. Marriage is a
fallible human institution that needs drastic improvement 
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